Ceremony - Vows
Writing your own personal wedding vows is a beautiful way to make your wedding ceremony yours. Expressing your love and commitment to your partner in front of all your loved ones. While the initial thought of it can seem daunting, here’s a few tricks and tips so you can create your vows that are heartfelt and memorable in all the best ways.
Start with Personal Touches
Use Your Own Voice: There’s something more personal when the words you use are your own. Don’t try to sound overly poetic or “too formal” if that’s not your style. Authenticity is key and allows you to stay true to yourself and your relationship.
Favourite Memories: Specific memories that highlight your journey together so far are amazing moments to come back to in your vows. These could be first your first few dates, overseas trips, or shared experiences that are meaningful to both of you.
Include Inside Jokes: If it feels right and appropriate, feel free to add a touch of humour through a few inside jokes that only your closest family and friends will be able to recognise. This little touches are a sweet way to make your vows more personable to true to yourselves.
Future Dreams: A nice way to conclude with your writen vows is to incorporate your shared hopes and dreams for the future together. Expressing your commitment to the journey ahead and how you always strive to love them the best you can.
Bonus Tips
Limit the Length: Aim for a rough length of about 1-3 minutes each when spoken aloud. This ensures your vows aren’t rushed and allows the weight of what’s being said to be truly heard and soaked in.
Practice Aloud: Practice reading your vows aloud in a quite place or in front of your side of the Bridal Party to see how they sound. This helps you get more comfortable with the delivery and flow of your vows, while also figuring out if you need to make any necessary adjustments.
Keep Them Secret: Keep your vows a secret from one another until the ceremony. This makes the moment more special and surprising. Allowing real feeling to be felt and expressed in the moment (great for your photos).
Officiant Guidance: Your Officiant will be able to help be your “middle person” who is a safe person to send both your vows to and hear feedback from. If that’s to change the lenght of one vows and or add a more specific point to explore if you’re struggling with what to say. I always encourage my couples to make the most out of this!
By incorporating personal touches through telling a story, reflecting on your relationship and how far you’ve come. Remember to start early and allow time to collect all your thoughts to ensure your vows are perfect for your special day.
